One of the hardest kinds of breakups is breaking up with a “good guy.”
It’s easy to break up with a guy when he’s a jerk, he’s treating you badly, he’s rude, he’s always late, always stands you up, disrespectful etc. It’s easy to break up with a guy when he’s disrespectful, verbally, emotionally and physically abusive.
But what about a nice guy? The kind of guy that holds the door open for you, pays for every outing, treats you like the princess you are, makes you feel special. What about that guy? What if you realize that no matter how great he is, you couldn’t see yourself with him. Maybe you realize that your personalities clash, or you realize that he’s just not the one for you.
Could you break up with him?
One thing I realized a few years ago is that not every nice guy is the guy for you. There are a lot of jerks in the world, but there are also a lot of really nice guys in the world. So you can’t make a marriage decision based on just how “nice” he is. You have to make sure that this is the one God has for you, that no matter what happens in your relationship, your marriage, you will never question whether you made the right decision by choosing to be with him.
So yes, he may be a “good guy,” but is he “The guy?”