I remember when I was about 9 years old I overheard one of my family members talking to someone about how I had a bad singing voice. They weren’t saying it to be hurtful, and they probably wouldn’t remember it if I brought it up, but in all these years I’ve remembered that comment.
Many of us were scarred as kids by well-meaning people, and now as adults we refuse to do certain things because we believe in our minds that we are bad at whatever the activity may be. Unless you have a super-terrific voice, I can bet that you are very self-conscious about your voice. And guys! phew! I can’t imagine anything more traumatizing than going through puberty while being forced to sing in the choir… that would scar me for life too!
So it’s important for the two of you to feel comfortable and safe enough with each other to sing together. There is something about being vulnerable with a person, in a way that you can’t with anyone else. It doesn’t matter what you’re singing…as long as it’s not something nasty and inappropriate…well then you’re on your own.
Sing together. Sing something meaningful, or sing something silly and funny, the important thing is that you learn to sing together and create a beautiful harmony.
Help us to always remember to protect each other. As we learn to be comfortable with ourselves and vulnerable with each other, help us to also learn to be the great defenders and protectors of those we love. Help us to remember that with you our voices are beautiful heavenly harmonies. And help us to heal from the wounds of our past through the songs we sing. Amen
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