Wow! so you meet this amazing guy, and he has children. It could be just one, or it could be multiple, but what do you do? Can it work?
I met a guy a few years ago that I would have dated, even though he had two children. We met on the plane, and talked for hours, he seemed really cool, but I have a rule back that I didn’t give my number out to strange men, so I didn’t give him my number.
So what is it about men with kids? He may decide he doesn’t want any more kids… He may be so busy with his kids that he wouldn’t have time for y’all’s kids… You become an instant mom… His kids may be brats… etc.
Yeah there can be lots of problems when a guy has children, but the situation is not impossible. The thing about relationships is that you don’t just get in a relationship with that one person, you get in a relationship with the guy, his family, his friends, and his children (if he has them). So see this as just another group of people you have to win over.
So find out if his child (or children) are from a previous marriage, or if they were conceived out of wedlock, and then deal with that based on your beliefs. Find out if he has multiple children from different women, then deal with that based on common sense, if he couldn’t commit then…
If you meet his kids and realize that you can’t do it, then make up your mind quickly, don’t feel bad about it, and move on. But if you see potential, remember that it may be challenging, but if he’s truly a great guy, then the challenge will be worth it.
Help us to never ever ever turn away from your love. And help us to judge people only as you judge them. Amen.
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