If “getting married” was the end goal in life, I would have been married years ago…and again last year.
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If “getting married” was the end goal in life, I would have been married years ago…and again last year.
If “getting married” was the end goal, I would have slept with him, cajoled him, married him, and been miserable.
I would have been surprised when I realized his level of debt, depressed when he went to jail and devastated when I found out his addiction.
If “getting married” is your end goal, then do whatever you have to do to get married, but remember that when Disney says “happily ever after” when a couple gets married, they mean “now the work begins.”
Now the work begins for two people to learn to serve each other. Now the work begins for you to learn to really forgive because you’ll be hurt by this person in a way you’ve never been hurt before. Now the work begins for you to realize that not everyone squeezes the toothpaste from the bottom of the tube, or washes their dishes when they finish eating, or places their dirty clothes in a hamper, when there is so much space on the floor. Now the work begins for you to no longer just decide what you want to do on the spur of the moment, but to plan and organize and reorganize your schedules….and this is all before the kids. Because after all, kids change everything.
Would you rather be miserable and married? Or would you rather be happily married?
Choosing one may mean you have to wait for a little bit longer, you have to deal with the loneliness a little bit longer. Choosing the other may mean you have to be miserable for the rest of your life.
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