If you don’t love attention please raise your hands. The truth is that we all love attention. And we work hard to get attention, sometimes in the wrong way.
One of my favorite movies is Grease. The first Grease, not any of the remakes. But the lesson Grease teaches a girl is not a good one at all. The gist of the movie is that a girl moves into a new neighborhood, and sees a guy that she spent the summer hanging out with. They had a wonderful time over the summer, but now that he’s in with his friends, he’s reluctant to show his nice caring side. So all of a sudden the girl is ashamed that she’s a virgin, and eventually she becomes a “bad girl” because she believes that is what will get his attention.
The movie ends after they get each other’s attention, but I often wondered what happened later. Did she get pregnant and regret her decisions? Did she get tired of pretending to be bad, or did she truly become bad? Did she have to keep coming up with ways to get his attention? Did they break up later or live happily ever after?
When we like somebody we do whatever we can to attract them, to get their attention. It can be something as innocent as wearing clothes that will make us look attractive to them, or it can be as bad as showing up at their house in the middle of the night confessing your love for them, and your willingness to do anything for them (scary, but it happens).
Now when you’re on the receiving end of all this attention, when your guy is madly in love with you, it feels wonderful. This is a guy who is willing to move anything to be with you. A guy who is willing to go through hell and back just to make you happy. You feel like the queen of the world, you feel fulfilled and satisfied…
And then you break up!
What exactly are you to do now? All of a sudden, there is no one asking you about your plans for the week, or telling you how that particular shade of pink highlights your face, or how your smile carries them through the hardship of life.
Babygirl doesn’t feel so special any more…
But babygirl, you are special. You have to find your worth outside of any man and anything. You have to remember that God called you special, God gave you his name. God thinks about you every second of the day, God delights to spend time with you. God is looking at you and so happy that you are his creation, God smiles when he thinks about you, and is glad when you are happy. God sends gifts to you every single day and is delighted when you receive and appreciate them. God is crazily in love with you, and you have his full attention ever second of everyday.
So babygirl, it’s normal to miss the attention from your ex, but can you trust me when I say that it will feel better eventually? Can you trust me when I say that you are more special than any human being can ever truly understand. God loves you so much, give Him the opportunity to express His love to you.