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When I was in high school, I really liked this guy, but he told my friend I was too skinny, and that he only dated thick girls. The way I saw it, I had two options (1) gain weight so I could date him or (2) stay the same and be miserable without him for the rest of my life… I chose option (C) I stayed the same and lived happily ever after…
The other day I heard about a guy who was not interested in dating a girl because he thought she was too skinny, until he saw her in one of those flattering dresses and realized that she had a butt…
In a world where there are 2-3 women for each man, where most churches are filled with lonely single women, and very few single men, where pornography tells men that it is their right to have any shape of woman they want, where music videos tell men that it’s okay to objectify women, I shake my head and wonder…
In a world where women are compared to celebrities, lingerie models and the photoshop effect…where girls are taught to diet at a young age, wear revealing clothes at a young age, and flatter the body part that may be most attractive to men…
The magazines tell us: If you haven’t got it fake it
The movies tell us: If you haven’t got it you’re not worth it
The music videos tell us: If you haven’t got it envy us.
And celebrities tell us: If you’ve got it, flaunt it
All of a sudden you’re a fool if you have “sexy” shoulders and don’t choose to bare your shoulders, or if you have a butt and don’t wear clothes that accentuate your butt all the time, or if you have boobs and don’t expose your cleavage to any guy that’s interested…
So I’m writing this to plead with you…just because you’ve got it, doesn’t mean you have to flaunt it. You are more than any body part, you are amazing and valuable whether or not you have a big butt, are tall, skinny, or whatever… you don’t owe it to anyone to be anything but you.
If you flaunt it, you may get what you want, you may actually attract the man you want, and you may actually end up with him…but guess what, you’ll have to keep flaunting it to keep him…and God forbid you lose it…well there he goes…
Baby girl you’re beautiful. No seriously YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, and you don’t need to look like anyone else. YOU ARE Beautiful.
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