I began a series on breakups a while back, and I’ve decided to continue it. To see the other postings in the series click here.
“I miss you” one of the best three words in the English language, coming right next to “I love you.” There is something wonderful about being needed, and being missed when we are not around. We all have that feeling and that longing. We all want to be missed, and when we are told that we were missed it gives us a sense of importance.
Sometimes though, breakups have a way of abusing our desire for being missed. We get the text message, or the phone call, or the letter (for those still living in the stone age), with those three words “I miss you.” And all of a sudden we forget why exactly we had chosen to break up in the first place.
See just because someone misses you, or you miss them does not mean that you didn’t make the right decision to leave them. Just because you’re feeling especially lonely when you received the message from them doesn’t mean that you must respond to them.
This is why it is important to find value in who you are, so that it doesn’t matter what anyone says to you, or what anyone says about you. So I plead with you to learn that you are an awesome woman and a valuable addition to society. So that when you get that message, you can just shrug because considering how wonderful and irresistible you are, it’s no wonder he misses you. And you can decide to continue living without him, because after all, he should have considered that he would need you before he broke up with you, or did the stupid thing (or things) that made you break up with him.
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