I’ve been thinking a lot lately about when God created man (Genesis 2). What is so intriguing to me is that after God created man, he decided that this man needed help (Genesis 2:18). I mean I don’t know if you understand what I’m saying… but after God created woman, He did not then create an assistant for her, or another help for her… it was the man that needed help, and God created the woman to help him accomplish his purpose.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that the woman’s sole goal in life is to help a man accomplish his purpose. Rather, I’m saying that men need women more than we realize. In order to accomplish his purpose, man needs woman. Yes yes yes! You’re right women need men too, but what I don’t think you understand is that for much of our lives as women we have been taught to pine after men. We have been taught that our lives would never be complete without men, so we had to do all we could do to get them.
My 8-year old male cousin told me a few years ago about girls in his school who would aggressively pursue him, force him to sit with them for lunch and announce to the class that he was their boyfriend. This was not a shy little timid child, and I’m sure he enjoyed the attention a little, but what got me was how aggressive girls were at such a young age. I’ve heard of girls stalking guys, sending sexually explicit text messages and pictures to these young men…and all sorts of things and it’s really sad.
I understand what it is to be wanted. I understand why lots of girls pursue guys aggressively. I’ve been there, I’ve been aggressive, and guess what it works. You want a guy? Go after him aggressively, and you’ll most likely get him. But the problem is that you will not like what you get.
You have to realize that your only job as a woman is to be fabulously you. To passionately pursue your purpose in life, and you’ll find out that you will not have to fight for the man, fight to keep the man, or fight to keep the relationship. Instead you can just rest in the security and beauty of the relationship. In the years since I began focusing on just being fabulously me, I have gotten pursued more amazingly eligible and marriageable men. I have become “hot cake” (in the words of my dear friend and anonymous cohost of the I am seriously single podcast).
What’s even more exciting about focusing on being fabulously me, instead of pursuing a guy is that when I choose the man I am going to be marry, you better believe that he will be extremely special. You better believe that he will God’s choice for me, and you better believe that I will not have to fight to keep his love.
How about you? Are you the priceless fabulous jewel in the relationship, or is he?